There is an interesting phenomenon with pregnant and newly postpartum mothers when it comes to fitness. It is hard to give up control of our body when you become pregnant. After 40 weeks of being at the mercy of our uterus, we are eager to get to our old selves. Our old bodies, just a bit of our old lives. Our new bundle of joy has us swooning, but there is still this quiet (or not so quiet) nagging voice that is telling us to jump back into life. If you were a fitness lover before pregnancy, you're likely chomping at the bit to get back to it. That is how I felt at four week postpartum with my daughter. I felt good. I didn't have any diastasis recti, I didn't have any pelvic floor issues. I felt ready. I was listening to my body. I COULD do the work. But does that mean that I should have?Read More
When is the last time that you saw a naked body? What about the last time that you saw a naked body that wasn't sexualized? Or how about a naked body that looks like yours? How about the last time that you saw your OWN body, completely naked? Hang with me, I'm going somewhere with this......
I have found that many women that I work with are dissatisfied with their own bodies because they think that something is wrong with it. It doesn't look like the bodies we see in magazines, movies, and social media. We are flooded by images of one type of body, and that body doesn't represent most of us. Even if your body does "fit" into the standard beauty model, it's common that women will still pick apart their stretch marks, cellulite, and rolls. I've yet to meet a woman that could tell me that she was happy with her reflection in the mirror. And this my friends, breaks my heart. I am the first to tell you that I don't love everything in that I see in the mirror. But I do APPRECIATE and RESPECT my reflection. This is my wish for you. [...]Read More
I've been a player in this self-love journey for a while now. I'm no rookie. But there are still moments, days and weeks where I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. I'm thankful that I am aware of these moments rather than a constant unconscious state of being as it used to be, but it still leaves a sinking feeling in my gut when it happens.
Most recently I tossed on my bikini to hang out at the pool while on a mini holiday in California. That was fine. I have surrounded myself with imagery of real bodies and strictly limited the amount of photoshopped and unrealistic images from my daily life. [...]Read More
I have had a few professional careers in my short three decades of life, so what am I doing here, running The Alley Gym?
In a past life, I was a middle school Special Education teacher. Middle school is notoriously tough for everyone, but after spending thousands of hours with pre-teens, I saw that the added pressures of social media add a whole new level of complexity that a maturing brain is not prepared to cope with. This is in addition to the already-difficult-to-deal-with hormonal changes and bodies that are developing and changing before their eyes. [...]Read More
There is a brilliant Poetry Slam reading by Katie Makkai that I have watched a hundred times and I will watch hundreds more. It never fails to inspire me in my quest to love myself exactly as I am. Before we move on, have a watch.[...]Read More